I was listening to a recent Writing Excuses podcast episode and, while this might surprise some of you, the topic was really riling me up. I considered blogging about it for today, but the more I wrote and contemplated it, the more frustrated and opinionated I got. I don’t get riled up and ranty very often, and I’m almost never public about it, so I decided to forgo that blogging path. Confrontation and debate are not among my strengths.
But that left me trying to decide what to write about and it occurred to me how few people these days make this decision.
How many bloggers get riled up about something and instead of taking a step back to think about how they feel rationally, they hop on the internet and just start ranting? How many important discussions and debates are derailed simply because everyone involved is too emotional to really consider all the arguments logically?
This is why I made the decision to avoid all politics and social justice topics on basically all public platforms. I know my strengths and weaknesses and my biggest weakness is keeping my emotions out of arguments and discussions. It’s the biggest reason I try to avoid confrontation most of the time. It’s just too emotionally draining.
That’s not to say everyone should avoid confrontation or that there’s no place for healthy debate. But what would happen if more people took just five or ten minutes to think about their feelings and opinions before jumping on the rant train? What if more people were able to read things that upset them and instead of immediately throwing out accusations and insults, they took the time to calm down before engaging?
Because while our feelings are real and natural, how we manage those feelings says quite a lot about our maturity, whether we want it to or not.
I suppose I’ve learned most of this through parenting and having to eat my words. A lot. Like when I tell my 7 year old that throwing his legos won’t make them work better and he brings up that time I broke the trash can because the bag tore.
Kid: 1 Mommy: 0
I’m not exactly sure what point I’m trying to make with this blog post, or if I’m trying to make a point at all, but it’s what’s been on my mind. Hopefully it’s been thought provoking. Or if not thought provoking, perhaps nap invoking. And naps are always good.
And no, I’m not going to tell you what the topic of the podcast was. You’ll just have to listen and guess which episode I’m referring to.